Nine of Pentacles represents a situation where there is an opportunity to make a nice profit, but where there is also a need to be selective and cautious. It represents a period in which important decisions must be made, which require time, resources and attention. It also indicates that one should avoid making rash investments or hasty decisions. In short, it suggests that one should not be too selective in choosing partners. The Lovers reversed indicates that you may be too selective in choosing partners. You may be too judgmental or turn down opportunities that could bring you personal or professional success. When The Lovers are reversed, there is a risk of feeling stuck in a certain way of thinking that limits the big picture. Furthermore, there is the risk of no longer considering one's feelings and one's relationships with others.
Tarot reading suggests that you shouldn't be too selective in choosing partners: you need to take all the opportunities that are offered to you and evaluate them carefully without being influenced by your beliefs or fears. You don't have to make the same mistakes of the past and you have to be open to the new possibilities that come your way. You need to look beyond appearances and weigh all the positives and negatives before making any final decisions.
In conclusion, the tarot suggests that you shouldn't be too selective in choosing your partners. You should take the opportunities that are offered to you and evaluate them carefully without being influenced by your beliefs or fears. You need to look beyond appearances and consider all the positives and negatives before making any final decisions. The answer to your question is therefore no: you are not too selective in choosing your partners.